If you’re single and ready to mingle but can’t seem to get anywhere with the ladies, we break-down just what exactly attracts a woman to a man at first sight according to Science.
Not all guys are born with rugged good looks and bags of charm. In fact, lots of us are born with neither! And is that the be-all and end-all when it comes to attracting women?
So, if you’re not a silver-tongued hunk, does that mean you’re going to be single all your life, with only your Xbox and your black Labrador to keep you company? Thankfully not!
We’re not saying that looks don’t matter but there are many more important things that a woman is looking for in a prospective partner. The science of attraction is a complex mix of different factors, from the people you hang around with to how much confidence you have in yourself, or even if you have facial hair.
Although you may not look like Brad Pitt or have the charisma of Johnny Depp, don’t lose hope. There are lots of things you can work on to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.
Below you will find 11 tips on what attracts a woman to a man at first sight – whether you’re in the bar, at the club, or even shopping at your local supermarket, check out these useful hints and tips to up your dating game.
Confidence is king
In our opinion, confidence is the biggest factor in appearing more attractive to women. In fact, you won’t get very far with most women if you don’t have any.
Not all guys are born confident and if this applies to you, there are a few things you can do to work on this. By using a few simple techniques, you can look relaxed and confident (which is often top of the list of what women look for in a potential partner).
Our first tip involves building your confidence from the outside. This means displaying positive body language. Make sure that you keep your head up and your back straight and relax your shoulders. Also, don’t forget to hold steady eye contact with girls and of course – don’t forget to smile.
Our second tip involves building confidence from the inside. Guys lack confidence for many reasons – doubt, fear, uncertainty, and lack of trust. If you want to attract women, you cannot dwell on negative thoughts – instead, try replacing them with more positive ones and you should see some improvement in attracting the fairer sex.
Building self-confidence is easier said than done but a good method to try is to remind yourself of your best qualities. You can also focus on aspects of your life that you like and that you are proud of – whether that be playing an instrument to being good at your job.
With practice, you’ll get better at focusing your mind on positivity and at preventing doubt and negative thoughts. Give it a little time, and you’ll feel more relaxed and confident around the ladies.
Our last tip for building confidence is to get in the gym regularly. As your age creeps on, this becomes more important. It’s not just about getting a six-pack, it’s about endorphins and feeling better about your appearance on a daily, weekly and monthly basis.
There are heaps of studies that show hitting the gym is a great way to build self-esteem and confidence and when others start to notice, that will give you a massive extra boost!back to menu ↑
Be seen with a group of friends
When you’re out and about, try to party with a group of buddies who can take the role of your wing-men.
An interesting study carried out by the University of California at San Diego found that people in group photos were rated as better-looking compared to solo shots.
You may have even heard of the “Cheerleader Effect,” where individuals appear more attractive when in groups. This is because when we view faces together, it brings individuals closer to the group average. This can “even out” one guy’s unattractive features and make him look more attractive to the opposite sex. But note, this only works in-person and does not translate to social media photos or those used on dating apps.back to menu ↑
Make her laugh
Another key ingredient of what attracts a woman to a man at first sight, is humor. Women can’t resist a guy that tickles their funny-bone.
While you may be smart and cultured, this won’t be much help if you can’t make the lady laugh. But remember to be appropriate and this means delivering the right jokes for the right people.
Bear in mind that jokes that are suitable for your bros may be too dirty for a new group of chicks so moderate your funnies and keep it clean with girls you’ve just met.
Don’t panic if you’re not naturally hilarious though, women are not expecting every guy to be a stand-up comedian. By just getting your target to laugh once or twice shortly after your introduction will pay dividends in the long-run.
You only need to show a girl that you’re know how to have a laugh and that you can turn it on when you need to.
If you fancy a bit of light entertainment you might appreciate our article 40 witty pickup lines that might just work!!!back to menu ↑
Improve your appearance
Men sometimes get it wrong when it comes to their appearance. It’s not just about the latest hairstyle, huge muscles, and designer suits. Yes, these things can you get noticed but there’s a whole lot more that you need to consider.
In fact, it’s better to keep your appearance simple. For example, wear clothes that fit well and are clean. A good pair of clean shoes/sneakers is another thing that women tend to care about.
It goes without saying that you should take some time to iron your clobber and make sure that the colors you intend to wear don’t clash or look stupid.
Looking clean, fresh and well-groomed are “musts” for attracting a woman at first sight so remember to tidy your hair, trim your beard and remove any nasty nasal hairs etc before you head out. Maybe even get a second opinion on how you look (preferably from a female friend or family member) before you leave your crib.
If you haven’t bought any new clothes for a decade, grab your credit card and head to your nearest mall to pick up some new threads (again don’t forget to take someone with good taste with you).back to menu ↑
Be nice to kids
This one is very interesting! As we mentioned earlier, being seen with a group of guys is never a bad move, but did you know that being seen with kids or babies can be even better for attracting women?
Research done in France found that men who played with babies were incredibly more than three times as likely to get a girls’ phone number than men that ignored the children!
The French statistics don’t lie with 40% of women giving up their contact information after witnessing men playing, smiling, and talking with youngsters.
And if you don’t have a kid, why not offer your babysitting services to friends or family members?back to menu ↑
Work on your smile
The science of attraction is a complex one but the art of smiling has to be in every single guy’s playbook.
Research done on non-verbal behavior discovered that men whose smiles spread slowly across their faces were considered more attractive than those men who displayed a quick smile!
The slower-smiling men also received higher scores for trustworthiness and were perceived as being more genuine than their fast grinning counterparts.
This is also good advice for your online dating profiles with many studies finding that men are around 10 – 20% more likely to be swiped right on if they’re smiling in their photographs.back to menu ↑
Walk your dog
This isn’t a joke – it’s backed by science! A pooch can actually help you land the woman of your dreams!
Studies from France found that girls were actually three times more likely to give a guy their phone number to a guy on the street when approached by one with man’s best friend than without one!
According to researchers, being seen with a dog increases perceptions of kindness, caring, thoughtfulness, and also sensitivity.back to menu ↑
Make a good social media bio
If you’re a fan of meeting girls online, using the right vocabulary in your bio can have a big impact on attracting women.
A study done by the dating website Zoosk reported that guys that used positive words such as “creativity,” “ambition,” or “humor” in their dating profiles received a whopping 33% more messages than men that didn’t include these types of words.
And using hobby-related words like “design” or “draw” – or adding stuff about exercise and healthy-living saw a bigger response from ladies looking for love.
This also works the other way, too. Do not appear too pushy or keen! Messages that included words such as “dinner” or “drinks” received a much lower response rate.
When writing your dating bio, try to include something that is unique to you. It might be tempting to write the usual generic stuff but you’ll be actually doing yourself a great disservice. Bear in mind that you’re trying to “stand-out” from the crowd and differentiate yourself from the thousands of other men in your geographic area.back to menu ↑
Build a better body
Easier said than done, a fitter and more muscular body can play a big part in how attractive you appear to women.
A study conducted by the University of California in 2007 concluded that women are more likely to have short-term relationships with fellows that have big muscles.
The study found that women rated “built” men as the most sexually desirable. These men received higher scores than smaller, non-muscled men and surprisingly heavy, brawnier men, too! The findings suggest a “Goldilocks effect” – in that women like a bit of muscle, but not too much. Such characteristics as muscularity are signs that the evolutionary process is still alive and well.
While a great body will certainly help with shorter relationships, research suggests that men with fewer muscles were more popular with women looking for long-term relationships.back to menu ↑
Be kind and help others
Next in our list of what attracts a woman to a man at first sight, is startling! – “The Halo Effect” gives kind men a chance and means that nice guys DON’T always finish last!
This is a bias where you judge a person by just one aspect and make judgments on their overall character. An example of this is when we see good-looking people and assume that they are good at everything they do, even when the truth is often very different.
The halo effect works both ways. A Chinese study (done in 2014) found that people who possessed positive personality traits such as kindness, integrity, and honesty were rated as being more attractive than people with negative personality traits such as being greedy, mean or uncaring.back to menu ↑
Understand the rules of flirting
Flirting is a skill that can take a lot of time and practice to get right. Women are much more subtle creatures than us guys so it’s very important that we can tell when a woman is flirting with us.
Most men are not masters of recognizing these signs so here is a short list of the things you should be looking out for:
- Eye contact
- A lingering smile
- Playful touching
- Raunchy comments and innuendos
- Playing with her hair
- Laughing at your jokes
The nuances of flirtation are very subtle and are often totally missed by dudes, who usually only notice more direct and straightforward signs that she likes you.back to menu ↑